What is Pegging?

Pegging is a sexual practice that involves a person, typically a woman, using a strap-on dildo to penetrate their partner anally. Put simply, pegging is penetrative anal intercourse. 

This role reversal in penetration can be a source of immense pleasure and intimacy for many couples, offering a unique way to explore each other's bodies and desires. Here we explore the history of Pegging as well as how you can try it safely (and pleasurably!) at home.

When Did Pegging Become Popular?

The concept of pegging gained widespread recognition largely thanks to Dan Savage. In 2001, sex educator Dan Savage, asked his readers to vote on a name for the sex act involving a woman (implied: cisgender woman) anally penetrating her partner (implied: cisgender man) with a strap-on harness. The winner, as you can tell, was the term pegging.

Since then, it has become a topic of growing interest and acceptance within various communities. Thanks to “Broad City,” “Weeds,” and “Deadpool,” the term pegging has slowly but surely made its way into the mainstream sexicon. 

Why Do People Enjoy Pegging So Much?

Understanding what pegging entails and how couples can incorporate it into their intimate lives can lead to positive and rewarding experiences. One key appeal of pegging is the opportunity for men to experience prostate stimulation.

It physically feels good for the receiver

The prostate, often referred to as the "male G-spot," is located just a few inches inside the rectum and can produce intense pleasure when stimulated. For many men, pegging provides a way to explore this pleasure point, often leading to powerful orgasms and a deeper understanding of their own sexual responses.

And (!) for the giver

For the penetrating partner, usually a woman wearing the strap-on, pegging can offer a sense of empowerment and a different perspective on sexual dominance and submission.

It can enhance intimacy by allowing both partners to switch roles and experience new forms of pleasure and control. This shared exploration can strengthen the emotional bond and promote mutual trust and respect.

A Guide to Your First Time Pegging

 In a nutshell, the basic must-knows for pegging are:

• Start with a small dildo.
• Use tons of lube.
• Go really, really slow.

Preparation is crucial for a positive pegging experience. Communication stands at the forefront—couples need to discuss their boundaries, desires, and any concerns they might have. This conversation lays the groundwork for a comfortable and consensual experience.

Start Small

Choosing the right equipment is also essential. Strap-on dildos come in various shapes and sizes, and it's important to select one that suits the comfort levels of both partners. Beginners might opt for smaller, more slender dildos to ease into the experience. High-quality, adjustable harnesses ensure a secure fit, providing better control during penetration.

Use Lubricant

Lubrication plays a vital role in pegging. If you remember one thing from this guide, make it this: “Lube is literally the difference between anal penetration being friction-y and a pleasant, orgasmic experience."

The anus does not self-lubricate, making liberal use of a good quality, lubricant is essential. Lubrication reduces friction and enhances comfort, making the experience more enjoyable for both partners. We recommend kiwi brand Share Satisfaction's lubricant designed specifically for anal.

Start Slow

Starting slowly and gently is key, especially for those new to pegging. Gradual and gentle insertion allows the receiving partner to acclimate to the sensation and relax their muscles. Communication during this time remains important; checking in frequently ensures both partners remain comfortable and can adjust as needed.

What Position is Best for Pegging?

Experimenting with different positions can help find what works best. Some popular positions for pegging include doggy style, spooning, or lying on the back with legs raised. Each position offers different angles and depths of penetration, allowing couples to discover what feels best for them.

Aftercare is an integral part of the experience. It involves tending to each other's emotional and physical wellbeing after the act. This can include cuddling, discussing the experience, and attending to any physical needs. Aftercare helps reinforce the connection between partners and ensures that both feel valued and cared for.

Your Bottom, Your Rules

Pegging offers a unique and enriching way for couples to explore their sexuality. It promotes mutual respect, open communication, and a deeper understanding of each other's bodies and desires. By prioritising preparation, consent, and aftercare, couples can enjoy a fulfilling and pleasurable pegging experience. 

All that said, pegging isn’t for everyone. So, if you don’t want to sport a strap or take it anally, don’t fret. There are plenty of ways to get and give pleasure.